Self esteem teenage girls can be a confusing thing for many people, and in my experience it is usually girls and women who have the most issues with it so girls, this article is for you!While some self esteem activities for women may give the ideas of getting a makeovers and new hair style I'm going to try and get away because I've found out that this is not really self esteem building, but a very temporary way to give you fake confidence and is not really helpful. I'm not against dressing up and looking good (of course every girl love to look good) but the can not be your source of confidence and self esteem because it is too inconsistent and circumstantial.
It is always best to come up with your own personal stress relief routine as everyone is so individual in what works and what they like. However there are a few good places for most people to start.Understanding - The first step in personal stress relief is to know what stress really is and how it can affect your life. Try to take some time off to reflect on what situations in your life stress you out. You can start a diary and through writing down the daily events that get you going. This is particularly good for many teenage girls as they like the private journaling. Of course talking with a close friend or a family member about any issues is also a great way to deal with it.
Do give in to Social Pressure - A very female specific issue in regards to self esteem is the massive social pressure that is placed on us in our culture. If you look at the TV, the news, movies, advertisements, magazines, there is a very similar pattern that is telling us that we must have a small butt and firm boobs or else we are unattractive. This whole social misunderstanding is so fundamentally wrong that I could write a whole book on it!
Start small - tackle one thing at a time. Don't try to do too much. Learn one technique and then use it for a while and also tackle one stressful situation at a time.Amanda Strang is a psychologist and psychotherapist working with parents and families all over world. Her interest is in what makes healthy, happy families and she has developed many training programmes for children, parents and carers to build skills to make successful family units.Self esteem can be a confusing thing for many people, and in my experience it is usually women and girls who have the most problems with it so ladies, this article is for you!
Keeping the tight rope walk of self esteem in mind, how can a teenage girl or teenage daughter keep one step ahead of the other to avoid tumbling to the ground below? Is there anything parents can do to aid in the process of self esteem building? I believe the answer to both of those questions is a resounding YES!As a matter of fact, if you are a teenage girl and are reading this article, ask your mom or some other trusted adult to help you as you build self esteem up. If you are the parent of a teenage daughter and you happen to be reading this article in search of information to improve self esteem on behalf of your daughter, you have come to the right place.
The initial step in building self esteem back to a healthy level could possibly be the toughest. It requires total honesty with oneself. The mask of deception and false representations of oneself must be taken off and the individual must be able to see herself as open and bare.Some of the masks could be in the form of anger. Anger is a defense mechanism that could be used to protect against others from seeing what is really going on inside of a person. The anger mask is put on when the individual feels threatened in some way. To those on the other side of the mask, the persona of toughness is seen, when actually on the inside of the anger, fear resides. There is also the fear from the discovery of inadequacies being revealed. Beneath the "anger mask" sits vulnerability and perceived weakness.
Resist Social Pressure - A very female specific issue in regards to self esteem is the massive massive social pressure that is placed on us in our western environment. If you look at tv, the media, movies, advertisements, magazines, there is a very congruent pattern that is telling us that we must have a small bum and firm breasts or else we are unattractive. This whole social misconception is so fundamentally flawed that I could write a whole book on it!
There is also the "Pollyanna mask". These masks keep everyone on the other side in a constant state of desiring to be more like miss perfect as she is always so sweet and kind. Pollyanna never makes mistakes and everything always seems to be going just right with her. In all actuality, she is oftentimes the sickest of all of us. Underneath her mask, she is far from perfect and keeping the persona of being so perfect prevents her from forming real relationships. Nobody ever truly knows who Pollyanna-miss perfect really is, not even herself.
Something that is a lot more attractive than looks however is a confident attitude. I have countless male friends who have confided in me that a womans attitude can be VERY addictive and override the fact she may not be a barbie doll look-a-like. A woman with an attractive, positive attitude will in the end receive much more attention than a model with low self esteem and the personality of a tree. This is great because a personality you can develop no matter who you are. A final mindset I'll leave you with is "if something can be done I have just as great a chance as anyone else" is a very humble way to go about life.
Surround yourself with supportive people - A big step to developing self confidence and any self improvement in life is to surround yourself in a supportive environment, filled with people who will be always be willing to encourage you. This may be your family, friends, co-workers, etc. Find people who love you for you and will be there to help you up whenever you are down. Confidence and self esteem cannot grow from an unreceptive environment, so make sure yours is supportive. If they have the opposite affect, get out of there or limit your time spend there as overtime it will have a negative affect on your self confidence, and be a cause of your low self esteem symptoms.I hope these self esteem activities for girls have been helpful to you.
It is always best to come up with your own personal stress relief routine as everyone is so individual in what works and what they like. However there are a few good places for most people to start.Understanding - The first step in personal stress relief is to know what stress really is and how it can affect your life. Try to take some time off to reflect on what situations in your life stress you out. You can start a diary and through writing down the daily events that get you going. This is particularly good for many teenage girls as they like the private journaling. Of course talking with a close friend or a family member about any issues is also a great way to deal with it.
Do give in to Social Pressure - A very female specific issue in regards to self esteem is the massive social pressure that is placed on us in our culture. If you look at the TV, the news, movies, advertisements, magazines, there is a very similar pattern that is telling us that we must have a small butt and firm boobs or else we are unattractive. This whole social misunderstanding is so fundamentally wrong that I could write a whole book on it!
Start small - tackle one thing at a time. Don't try to do too much. Learn one technique and then use it for a while and also tackle one stressful situation at a time.Amanda Strang is a psychologist and psychotherapist working with parents and families all over world. Her interest is in what makes healthy, happy families and she has developed many training programmes for children, parents and carers to build skills to make successful family units.Self esteem can be a confusing thing for many people, and in my experience it is usually women and girls who have the most problems with it so ladies, this article is for you!
Keeping the tight rope walk of self esteem in mind, how can a teenage girl or teenage daughter keep one step ahead of the other to avoid tumbling to the ground below? Is there anything parents can do to aid in the process of self esteem building? I believe the answer to both of those questions is a resounding YES!As a matter of fact, if you are a teenage girl and are reading this article, ask your mom or some other trusted adult to help you as you build self esteem up. If you are the parent of a teenage daughter and you happen to be reading this article in search of information to improve self esteem on behalf of your daughter, you have come to the right place.
The initial step in building self esteem back to a healthy level could possibly be the toughest. It requires total honesty with oneself. The mask of deception and false representations of oneself must be taken off and the individual must be able to see herself as open and bare.Some of the masks could be in the form of anger. Anger is a defense mechanism that could be used to protect against others from seeing what is really going on inside of a person. The anger mask is put on when the individual feels threatened in some way. To those on the other side of the mask, the persona of toughness is seen, when actually on the inside of the anger, fear resides. There is also the fear from the discovery of inadequacies being revealed. Beneath the "anger mask" sits vulnerability and perceived weakness.
Resist Social Pressure - A very female specific issue in regards to self esteem is the massive massive social pressure that is placed on us in our western environment. If you look at tv, the media, movies, advertisements, magazines, there is a very congruent pattern that is telling us that we must have a small bum and firm breasts or else we are unattractive. This whole social misconception is so fundamentally flawed that I could write a whole book on it!
There is also the "Pollyanna mask". These masks keep everyone on the other side in a constant state of desiring to be more like miss perfect as she is always so sweet and kind. Pollyanna never makes mistakes and everything always seems to be going just right with her. In all actuality, she is oftentimes the sickest of all of us. Underneath her mask, she is far from perfect and keeping the persona of being so perfect prevents her from forming real relationships. Nobody ever truly knows who Pollyanna-miss perfect really is, not even herself.
Something that is a lot more attractive than looks however is a confident attitude. I have countless male friends who have confided in me that a womans attitude can be VERY addictive and override the fact she may not be a barbie doll look-a-like. A woman with an attractive, positive attitude will in the end receive much more attention than a model with low self esteem and the personality of a tree. This is great because a personality you can develop no matter who you are. A final mindset I'll leave you with is "if something can be done I have just as great a chance as anyone else" is a very humble way to go about life.
Surround yourself with supportive people - A big step to developing self confidence and any self improvement in life is to surround yourself in a supportive environment, filled with people who will be always be willing to encourage you. This may be your family, friends, co-workers, etc. Find people who love you for you and will be there to help you up whenever you are down. Confidence and self esteem cannot grow from an unreceptive environment, so make sure yours is supportive. If they have the opposite affect, get out of there or limit your time spend there as overtime it will have a negative affect on your self confidence, and be a cause of your low self esteem symptoms.I hope these self esteem activities for girls have been helpful to you.
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