Changing your life is hard. It's really hard. I mean, surprisingly hard.
For anyone that has attempted to make some significant changes in their life because they couldn't handle living in the same mediocre way any more, you've possibly experienced the growing pains that come together with deciding to live in a different way. You are constantly tested, you fail time and again, and it's very difficult to see the world in the light of positivism.
It doesn't necessarily need to be that way.
You see, people struggle with deep change because they really do not know the skilled way to act when the negative feelings start bubbling up. They think that because negativism is occuring that they've got to be doing something wrong. No! Not remotely. In reality if you are wrestling and it hurts a little, you're doing things right. You're growing. You're moving past your zone of comfort.
When you're going through large changes, you're going to come across some important problems. Pain is going to come out to play, your inner critic is going to run free, and you are going to have some struggles. That's perfectly ok! That actually means you are heading in the correct direction. Don't give up now when you're in pain. Keep going and see it all the way through and you'll cross the finish line a transformed woman or man.
The "Frying Pan Of Life" is all about the way to get near enough to the agony to work with it without being consumed by it. When you are creating a new life, old things really tend to trickle out and you have to spend a while working with them. This is a natural part of the growing process. But you have got to work with them because if you fail to, you run the risk of allowing the past to sabotage your dreams.
So how do you do this?
You have to get sufficiently close to the discomfort and experience it without getting totally consumed by it. You have to be content to bring yourself to the painful places and let the thoughts and emotions swirl around you without taking you completely out of the game. When that can be done, you give yourself access to the lessons and light that are held within that dark place.
This takes a little bit of skill and lots of practice, but if you can truly spend some time working in these dark areas with some compassion and love, you can defrost even the coldest of hearts.
For anyone that has attempted to make some significant changes in their life because they couldn't handle living in the same mediocre way any more, you've possibly experienced the growing pains that come together with deciding to live in a different way. You are constantly tested, you fail time and again, and it's very difficult to see the world in the light of positivism.
It doesn't necessarily need to be that way.
You see, people struggle with deep change because they really do not know the skilled way to act when the negative feelings start bubbling up. They think that because negativism is occuring that they've got to be doing something wrong. No! Not remotely. In reality if you are wrestling and it hurts a little, you're doing things right. You're growing. You're moving past your zone of comfort.
When you're going through large changes, you're going to come across some important problems. Pain is going to come out to play, your inner critic is going to run free, and you are going to have some struggles. That's perfectly ok! That actually means you are heading in the correct direction. Don't give up now when you're in pain. Keep going and see it all the way through and you'll cross the finish line a transformed woman or man.
The "Frying Pan Of Life" is all about the way to get near enough to the agony to work with it without being consumed by it. When you are creating a new life, old things really tend to trickle out and you have to spend a while working with them. This is a natural part of the growing process. But you have got to work with them because if you fail to, you run the risk of allowing the past to sabotage your dreams.
So how do you do this?
You have to get sufficiently close to the discomfort and experience it without getting totally consumed by it. You have to be content to bring yourself to the painful places and let the thoughts and emotions swirl around you without taking you completely out of the game. When that can be done, you give yourself access to the lessons and light that are held within that dark place.
This takes a little bit of skill and lots of practice, but if you can truly spend some time working in these dark areas with some compassion and love, you can defrost even the coldest of hearts.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is the author of The Words Of Encouragement, a website dedicated to bringing the best quotes, motivational content on the web, and blogs all to one place. Feeling ready to take the journey of your life? Dive into these life goes on quotes for some wise words on what it means to live honestly.
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