Dangerous word...that word "should."
There's a lot attached to that word. A lot of suffering comes from the word. A lot of pain, a lot of grief, and a lot of expectation.
That word can do a significant amount of damage to your life and keep you utterly stuck in the past.
Maybe you've heard yourself say this before...
"This should have gone down in a very different way."
But the truth is, it didn't. It didn't go that way.
When you stay in the land of should, you are stuck in the past or the future.
When you have a "should" that is living in the past, you aren't fully able to come to terms with what is actually going on in your life. You think that it should have gone some way it didn't actually go and that brings a great amount of pain and suffering to your life because you can't accept the reality of the situation.
So what's the skill to learn here? Come back to the present moment over and over again.
When your "should" is existing in the future, you are projecting what "needs" to happen onto a time and place that you can't actually see. You are essentially diving into the unknown and out of fear (typically) wanting certain situations to go certain ways. What happens if they don't? You end up being incredibly disappointed in the current events.
You have to come back.
Truth is, we are all going to go through incredibly painful times in our lives. There will be moments that challenge us, make us want to fall to our knees in tears and make us crack under pressure.
The dark times will always be present.
But what will make us suffer even more is not accepting the truth...
So you have to look at it like this - what happened happened and it couldn't have gone down any other way. q
And what happens when you let go of your past and your future and come back to the present moment?
You get to accept the reality of the life you are in.
No "should."
No past.
No future...because you're in the moment.
You're living "here."
So stay connected with the present moment.
Live in a world of acceptance.
There's a lot attached to that word. A lot of suffering comes from the word. A lot of pain, a lot of grief, and a lot of expectation.
That word can do a significant amount of damage to your life and keep you utterly stuck in the past.
Maybe you've heard yourself say this before...
"This should have gone down in a very different way."
But the truth is, it didn't. It didn't go that way.
When you stay in the land of should, you are stuck in the past or the future.
When you have a "should" that is living in the past, you aren't fully able to come to terms with what is actually going on in your life. You think that it should have gone some way it didn't actually go and that brings a great amount of pain and suffering to your life because you can't accept the reality of the situation.
So what's the skill to learn here? Come back to the present moment over and over again.
When your "should" is existing in the future, you are projecting what "needs" to happen onto a time and place that you can't actually see. You are essentially diving into the unknown and out of fear (typically) wanting certain situations to go certain ways. What happens if they don't? You end up being incredibly disappointed in the current events.
You have to come back.
Truth is, we are all going to go through incredibly painful times in our lives. There will be moments that challenge us, make us want to fall to our knees in tears and make us crack under pressure.
The dark times will always be present.
But what will make us suffer even more is not accepting the truth...
So you have to look at it like this - what happened happened and it couldn't have gone down any other way. q
And what happens when you let go of your past and your future and come back to the present moment?
You get to accept the reality of the life you are in.
No "should."
No past.
No future...because you're in the moment.
You're living "here."
So stay connected with the present moment.
Live in a world of acceptance.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is a professional life coach at AYKME coaching. Dive into these great Bible Verses About Faith http://thewordsofencouragement.com/bible-verses-about-faith/ or these Quotes On Hope http://thewordsofencouragement.com/quotes-on-hope/ to get some motivation to move forward!
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